How to Choose a Boudoir Photographer: 3 Questions That Actually Matter
Finding Your Boudoir Photographer: What Actually Matters (Beyond the Portfolio)
Let's be honest, choosing someone to photograph you in intimate portraiture, aka boudoir photography, isn't exactly like choosing a hairdresser. You're not just looking at pretty pictures and competitive pricing. You're trusting someone with something deeply personal.
I've noticed many women struggle with this decision, and it's completely understandable. You're potentially getting vulnerable in front of a stranger, and those images? They're not going to share them on social media.
So what should you actually be looking for? Here are three things that truly matter:
Experience isn't just about years, it's about expertise
Here's something I see often: talented wedding photographers who also "do boudoir." And look, I get it, many brides want boudoir shoots as gifts for their partners. Makes perfect sense to ask your wedding photographer, right?
But here's the thing: wedding photography and boudoir photography are completely different disciplines.
Wedding photographers excel at capturing emotions between two people, those fleeting glances, the tears, the laughter. The precise angle of your hand? Not so critical.
Boudoir, though? It lives and dies by the details. The turn of your wrist, the arch of your back, how you position your leg. These tiny adjustments create the difference between feeling awkward and feeling powerful. A skilled boudoir photographer knows how to guide your body in ways that flatter your unique shape. That takes specific experience and practice.
Don't assume versatility equals expertise. Look for someone who specialises in this work.
Trust your gut about their vibe
Your images will only be as beautiful as you feel during the shoot. If you're tense, self-conscious, or uncomfortable with your photographer, it'll show.
You need someone you can trust quickly. Someone whose energy puts you at ease.
How do you figure this out before you book? Book a complementary consultation. Seriously, a fifteen-minute video conversation will tell you everything. Notice how they speak with you, whether they listen, and if their energy matches yours.
Also, read their blog or website. You'll get a sense of their voice, their values, and whether you'd actually enjoy spending time with them. If their writing feels authentic and relatable (or overly sales-y and generic), you've learned something important.
Privacy protocols matter more than you think
The internet is forever, and not everyone understands this when it comes to intimate photography.
Before you book anyone, ask directly: How will they use your images? Where might they appear? Who has access to them?
Some photographers feature client work on their websites and social media. Others (like many boudoir specialists) only show professional models. Neither approach is wrong, but you deserve to know upfront.
If you do receive digital images, ask about security measures:
Are galleries password-protected?
Can they be found through search engines?
Can you receive your images on a physical drive instead?
These aren't paranoid questions; they're practical ones. Your photographer should have clear, reassuring answers.
Wondering if we'd be a good fit? Let's talk. I offer complimentary 15-minute Zoom consultations where we can discuss your vision, answer your questions, and see if my approach resonates with you. No pressure, no sales pitch, just an honest conversation about what you're looking for and how I work.
